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 The art of keeping chaos at bay is a skill that I think I have learned over the years.

There are certain rituals I have to keep myself centered. Early in the morning, I love to grab an apple and a big glass of water, sit on the front porch and shop online. By shop, I mean hit my favorite sites, and add things to my online shopping carts. It doesn’t mean I buy them, just putting them in the cart is usually sufficient.

 There are also certain times throughout the day that I make sure I take “me time”, like going out and grabbing a cup of coffee. Or turning the ringer off the house phone, and turning down the volume of the answering machine. If it’s important, I’ll return the call later.

When cleaning the house it led to a complete overhaul this past weekend. I’ve been going room by room, cleaning and throwing out everything that isn’t necessary. Clutter equals chaos, and I work really hard to keep my life chaos free.
  I work really hard to keep chaos out of my life. There’s an underlying philosophy on how and why I do that.

It’s all about “The Onion”

Life and relationships are like an onion. The nucleus of the onion is you and your immediate family, meaning spouse/partner and children. Everyone else is in a different layer of the onion. The more important they are, the closer that layer is to the nucleus. Even parents and siblings are not in the immediate core.

 An onion can survive with or without the outer layers, but not with the nucleus. And if one of the layers becomes diseased, the onion pushes it away from the nucleus, keeping the illness away from the healthy center. As long as the center remains healthy, the onion survives. In most cases, other people’s chaos are like the disease that could infect the onion. It needs to be pushed from the nucleus keeping us healthy. I don’t want somebody else’s chaos taking time or energy from the people I consider my nucleus.

 That’s pretty much how I treat my relationships. I keep the onion in perspective, and keep other people’s chaos at bay.
 It makes for a happier everyday life.
 

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