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It seems that I’m having a a few conversations about women about having to dress down or be less them themselves to please other women. Just the other day, I was having a conversation to ease the discomfort of my sister in law, a woman just starting out on her journey of marriage & kids.

She came to me completley frustrated with PTA meetings and having to be less than herself, less she be ganged up on by other women. As a new member of the PTA, she was specifically told by a friend, who was already a member, not wear makup. She is too pretty as it is, she shouldn’t accent it and  dress down so she would blend in and not be as noticeable. To do more would bring the rath of the women mob mentality.

 We’ve all seen it. We have all been at events where a beautiful woman walks in and immediately the women at your table point her out, call her a bitch, and ask “Who does she think she is dressing like that?”.

 I don’t have many female friends. That’s partially why. I refuse to be part of that cycle that does nothing but hurt us women.

 And I refuse to make myself less to keep others in their comfort zone. I’m proud of who I am, and work hard to keep myself healthy. How that effects others, I’m not sure. But even a recent weight loss program, there were woman who were happy to have me as their “fat friend”, but I was somehow threatening to them as I lost weight.

 There are enough problems with the media and the image of women, and we all have images with our own self esteem without having other women attempt to knock us down.

You need to be true to yourself, and you do not need to live with false limitations.

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