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Hips and Curves.com  is a site I just found offering really nice, full figured, lingerie. It is such a large collection that there is something for everyone.

 The styles are very classic, comfortable, and are very figure flattering for a real shaped woman. I love the amount of corsets and bustiers offered to show off a woman’s figure, and they are designed to give support where it is most needed.

 The pricing is competitive, and  the look of the site is very positive and supportive, even in their choice of beautiful, volumptous models. There’s even a buyer’s guide section with tips for men and an in-depth sizing chart. There are also gift cards!!!!

Known for their provocative ads, lingerie designer Agent Provocateur just released their new online campaign with a swash bucking pirate theme.

 You can have a taste of pirate life with their interactive movie, complete with hot pirates, sexy lingerie and treasure. As a matter of disclosure, I have to admit to having a pirate fetish, so the whole experience makes me tingle.  Aside from my personal appreciation, I love it when a company steps out of the box and offers us something more than a photo of their lingerie in front of a fireplace or bedpost. The pirate experience acknowledges women’s fantasies and fetishes in a steamy and positive fashion.

In other lingerie news, Boston College is getting heat from their conservative Catholic alumni over a deal with Victoria’s Secret that adds  the BC logo to Vicoria’s Secret’s Pink Collection. The article is here.

“There is no way that we want that (BC) logo to be interpreted as ‘We OK the sexualization of women,’ ” said Sharlene Hesse-Biber, director of the Women’s Studies Center at Boston College, about the products.

So what should we do, “desexualize” women? Victoria’s Secret is selling lingerie to women. And yes, we want to feel sexy and good, it’s part of the female experience. I’d rather embrace my sexuality than shroud it in Catholic guilt.

I’ve been working with a few different lingerie manufacturers, attempting to alter some existing designs to better fit women with regular shapes and bodies. Yes, it can be done, but even the slightest alteration increases the cost of the items more than it is worth. To me, there is no point of creating something that is outside the price range that people can afford, and to make it a great luxury item.

 Yesterday, I was out shopping, and stopped into a major lingerie chain in the local mall. I found a few items I liked, tried them on, and them proceeded to mix and match items to give me the look I wanted, but also give me the support I needed and the ability to cover certain areas. I purchased a really nice baby doll combination, and knew that the thong underwear that was part of the set wasn’t going to work. But I already own a pair of tap pants, really nice soft underwear that sits a little higher and closer to my belly button. It was perfect to match the babydoll top I really liked. Since the set was on sale, I purchased the outfit for less than $30, even though I would toss the thong.

 The thought occurred to me that this is how I typically shop. I mix and match items from department stores and lingerie boutiques that give me the look I want, the support I need and at a price I can afford. Why alter an existing $30 item and bring the price to $95, when the same look can be achieved off the rack for less?

The other side is that I feel good walking into a lingerie store and being able to buy off the rack. Yes, there are items I buy in the plus sized section, and even that has a negative connotation to it. Typically, you walk past the “regular” items, and find the plus sizes tucked away in a corner. But I enjoy the whole encounter, from smelling the lotions to walking out with the bag. There is pleasure in the whole buying experience.

So that’s my new goal, showing women how to mix and match “off the rack” items, and create new combinations that allow them to feel good

It Halloween, and it’s not just for kids anymore. It’s the one day that even the most mild-mannered can become a fierce dominitrix for the night. It’s allowed and acceptable to role play today and tonight.

 Regardless of your shape and body type, every women is sexy in stockings or fishnets. Even if you don’t get a sexy costume, you can at least do something sexy in the bedroom, even with the lights out! A sexy vampress, librarian, or sexy devil can all be fun ways to explore fantasies and feel good about ourselves. Even a $1 pair of cat ears, with sexy makeup and painted whiskers, can be really fun to crawl around the bed and be sexy.

 Does it have to be serious? No, I love to be silly when I dress up. Silly is sexy. It’s sometimes easier to not take ourselves so seriously, and being fun and casual easily comes across as confident and in control.

I know there is a curiosity on the daily life of escorts and other adult industry workers. It’s part of the appeal of girl’s blogs. Does sexuality play a part in daily life? I can’t speak for anyone else,  just me. Maybe not sexuality, but sensuality does play a large part in my daily life. I do have a holistic approach to life, where everything melds together rather than compartmentalize.

 Like everything else in my life, the house itself is a giant art project. An older home with great bones, it is more than 60 years old (that’s old for Florida).  Cloaked by trees and lots of foliage, most people don’t realize there is a home on the property. It is my secret hidden jewel. Sadly, it can’t be rebuilt to it’s former glory. So it’s being modified to something more modern and artistic. Restoring this older home is a full time job in itself. I harbor this love/hate relationship with it. At times just wanting it done, and other times enjoying the process of researching, designing, and using uncommon building materials.

One example is the countertop in the kitchen. They are chocolate brown and made of concrete. They are sleek and regal to look at, yet cool and smooth as glass to the touch. A large delicate white orchid resides on the counter playing soft against hard, dark paired with light. I’m always wanting some sort of visual balance.

 It is only fitting that the objects within my home would be very sensual. Some are rather obvious, from the Klimt print above, to some nude sculpture. Others at first glance are more mundane, but to me very sensual. And most of it was done by artists I know, each sharing with me a little piece of themselves. When I did have time, I modeled nude for artist friends. And sometimes in trade, I get a drawing or painting of myself. (I guess there will be another blog on narcissism coming soon  LOL) 

The pear is another theme because to me it exudes a deep, understated sensuality and almost quiet allure. If I could be a fruit it would be a pear. Not only do I have paintings, but candles and trinkets in the shape of pears as well. A common symbol of femininity, fertility, and sensuality,  I find the voluptuous curve, or the coy blush on its rounded cheek appealing. Maybe it’s the firm, smooth flesh that feels nearly creamy against the tongue. You can’t fight the fact that the pear is a fruit that quietly demands your utter attention to its readiness; one day too early, and it’s not quite ready. Several hours too late, and the sweetest moment has passed.

The colors in the house were picked for their sensual nature. Calming and alluring, engaging yet peaceful. I’m very sensitive to color and it is one of my odd hobbies. As some people are good with numbers, I am good with color.

In some way, that I’m not quite sure, I even find  even my most mundane tasks to be an artistic and creative endeavour. It’s part of the larger picture, where my life is a giant work of art, and each adventure is a different paint stroke on the canvas. Even a bad adventure would simply add a darker shadow tone to the canvas, making the better adventures and colors more vibrant.

I did post this previously on another blog, but seemed fitting here

I’ve always been a voluptuous & curvy girl. And have always felt sexy in my skin no matter what my weight was. One of my frustrations has always been the limited choices of sexy lingerie for regular sized women. It seems that most women’s lingerie is really only made for thin shapes or ladies without curves. Plus sized items are starting to be carried by some stores, but they are typically  plain and doughty. They look like they were thrown together from bulk fabrics that are ugly and uncomfortable. They also would not accent what I would say are the average girl’s best features. Sure guys might like a girl with a little extra in the butt,  but not with some dental floss in it. What they usually seem to be lacking is giving a woman something comfortable that hides some flaws, but makes her feel sexy.

Unfortunately, it can add up to give women the message that if they can’t fit into the thonged lingerie available at most stores, they can’t be sexy. That is the furthest thing from the truth. Being sexy has nothing to do with how a woman physically appears, but how she carries herself.

It’s great to see a company like Secrets in Lace produce stylish, sexy outfits that women made for real women. Not just plus sizes, but all sizes. Their updated tap pants are very sexy, feel great, and can cover those areas we don’t like to show. And yes, men find them sexy.