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With the holidays upon us, I thought it would be timely to publish a “Men’s Lingerie Buyer’s Guide” for those men brave enough to attempt to purchase lingerie for someone special.

The first thought is to purchase a gift certificate. It’s easier for you, and misses many of the pitfalls of trying to purchase lingerie for a woman. Women love the shopping experience. There’s something special about shopping, touching the items, trying things on, and even walking out with a shopping bag. It’s all part of the experience. We do receive pleasure from online shopping as well. But don’t just throw her a gift certificate in a card. That can really piss us off. It’s easy for us to think that no thought has gone into it.

 To make the gift certificate idea complete, make it complete. Give her a specific time to shop, even if its online, and during that time, you will take the kids out, give her some alone time, or take care of those pesky chores you have been putting off. Make her shopping experience a pampering experience.

 If you are brave enough to still attempt shopping yourself, here’s a few guidelines:

• Buy for her, not for what you would like to see her in. That little G-string/Garter set might look hot in the window, but if it makes her self conscious or uncomfortable, whats the point?  You want her to feel sexy, as there’s nothing more sensual o sexy as a woman who feels sexy.

• Pay attention to the clues. Women will often complain about the areas of their bodies that they don’t like, whether it’s their tummy, arms, droopy breasts. Your lingerie selection should cover the areas that she is not comfortable with. And don’t be a doofus and later say, “I picked this because it will cover your flabby arms”

• Look through her existing items for style and size information. If you see a pattern developing in the styles of her lingerie, it’s for a reason. Don’t try to make it your job to bring her “out of the box”. Most women have tried multiple styles, and found from experience what works for them. We may like bustiers, but may have found that they just don’t look good on us. Use that information to your advantage.

• Choosing the right size is a pitfall all it’s own. Every women’s body is different, and usually does not neatly fall into a S M L XL category. A large on one woman might be OK on the hips but not on the breast, while another woman purchases by her breast size, and makes the rest work. To only make matters worse, every manufacturer cuts their items differently, so a medium in one company can have a different cup size that an medium in another company. Look for items that have the next available sizes, larger and smaller, available in case an exchange is required.

• The material choice is important. Think satins and silks, as these materials glide across the body and flow, allowing more flexibility in how they drape the body.